Can You Make a Change in 2013?
I talked about going to the gym for 5 years before I eventually got there. Every year I made my resolution that this year was the BIG ONE – I was going to get fit. But somehow I never had the time, energy or the right shoes. Instead, I had lots of excuses. Sound familiar?
It may not be going to the gym that you want to achieve in 2013, but something else. As a coach, I work with people to help them understand what they really want; to test what is realistic enough to achieve and then create the confidence, time, and support to get started and keep going. Here are my top 5 suggestions for making your 2013 resolutions come true.
And a final note on my gym experience. Once I started going on a regular basis, it became easier, and it became a habit. I feel better for it and see it as a real investment in a healthier future.
Don’t take years to get started on what you want. As they say, life really is too short. You can get going NOW.
Happy New Year from Linda Hayman
Should I Stay or Should I Go? The Dilemma of Career Change
We all know that during a recession, or even at any time, moving to another job or changing career can be very daunting. I’ve worked with many clients who talk about wanting to leave their current jobs due to unacceptable stress levels, insufficient family time, and a lack of fulfilment. Some clients find that they are spending most of their lives sitting on motorways as they move from one business obligation to another, others are taking their laptops to bed to catch up; working mothers talk about being too exhausted to enjoy a bedtime story with their children.
So, what can help?
You can start by thinking about your choices: stay in your current job and look to improve things, or go somewhere else.
“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” (Andre Gide)
by Linda Hayman – Blue River Coaching – Explore and Discover
Team Makeover: Become the “A” Team!
During my many years working as a project and departmental manager, I have seen a number of teams in action: some of these have been cohesive, high-performing teams. Others, however, are a different story. They talk about teams “Norming, Storming and Performing”. Unfortunately, some teams never get further than the Storming phase. Just like children in a play group, there is a lot of screaming, no-one is sharing, and a couple of kids are crying in the corner.
Here are my top 7 tips for creating a top-performing team, or transforming a dysfunctional one:
What are your tips for creating a great team?
Mysterious Woman Escapes from Filing Cabinet – My Story of Change
Sometimes you really want to make a change for the better, but no matter how much you paint a great picture of “how it will be”, something just keeps holding you where you are. That was how it was for me with my old job. I was becoming increasingly unhappy with my situation, but the more my friends and family said “why don’t you just leave?” the more difficult the change seemed to be. I had wanted to try professional coaching for some time, but what a transition – from the corporate world of process, structure and a regular pay check, to self-employment. One of my biggest worries was that I would end up spending my days wearing slippers and watching day-time TV for entertainment.
The breakthrough came when I sat down and really thought deeply about what was holding me where I was. It was a very long list of about 15 things including: professional identity, the social community of the office, daily structure, mental stimulation, money and benefits, and even the nice lunches in the staff restaurant. So although the things that were making me unhappy were nagging me to leave, the things that were holding me there were stopping me from taking any action. I was becoming very miserable; my career became a job that I couldn’t wait to get away from at the end of the day.
Working with a coach, I went through each item on the list. First, I prioritised how important each of the items were for me and my family. Then, I looked at each item and asked myself two questions: 1) how much of that do I want/need in my new world (e.g. Money) and 2) could I get it another way outside of my current situation. For example, I discovered that my corporate social network could be replaced with other professional networking groups (some of these much more diverse and interesting than what I was experiencing in the office).
This took some real soul searching because as important as I thought it was to have a recognised profession (what would others think of me if I wasn’t working in a corporate job?), there was a “light bulb” moment of – who cares what they think anyway? As I went through the rest of the list, I was able to find other ways of satisfying those needs.
So, knowing that I was FINALLY ready, I resigned on April Fool’s Day 2011 to start my new future. And I have not looked back!
You can make changes too…Don’t get stuck.